Twelve years ago, I wrote a column about my brother, Jamie, beginning an internship in New York City. He rented an apartment, mapped out his subway route and was seemingly prepared for this milestone journey into his business career.

Until he put on the suit he’d had since high school.

Some final growth spurts combined with an “all-you-can-drink” mentality at turning 21 made the gray wool suit fit more like a glove, an image he did not want to project on his first day in the working world.

Bizia Greene is an etiquette expert and owns the Etiquette School of Santa Fe. Share your comments and conundrums at or 505-988-2070.