Loyal, brave, true, honorable and devoted all describe aspects of Disney’s new remake of the animated 1998 movie Mulan.

Question: My 13-year-old son’s grades and overall respect for me and other adults — teachers, in particular — began going downhill last year (eighth grade), even befor…

Whole Hearted Parenting

Judgment: Key is how we use it

Judgment is both a brilliant tactic and a block to effective, connected parenting. It can be a wall or a bridge. The key is in how we use is.

In six days, my daughter will be 23 years old. Being the parent of a young adult has given me a new perspective and a deeper appreciation of what is important.

A grandmother in Arkansas says her adult children have great difficulty telling their children what to do. They turn instructions — more accurately, what they think ar…

If I’ve learned anything in my life and career, it’s that common sense is not so common. This week, readers write in with questions about the blurred lines and expecta…

Living with Children

Tantrum tips

As just about everyone who has lived with a child for more than two years knows, the most potentially dangerous thing one can say to a toddler is “no.” That single syl…

Living with Children

Where we all went wrong

My profession, psychology, began demonizing traditional child rearing in the late 1960s. I was in graduate school at the time and on fire for the promise that the prop…

Question: We have a 5-year-old who obsesses about dying. This has been going on for six months, ever since a child in the neighborhood died of a congenital genetic con…

Question: Our 9-year-old has just learned he is not going back to school on schedule in the fall. Instead, he will be doing distance learning by computer and home inst…

I recently received a paean to my generation — the so-called “boomers” — that has been circulating on the internet for some time now. It recalls and celebrates the fre…

“I wasn’t gonna kiss this guy on a first date during COVID,” my friend Abby firmly stated while describing a recent evening out.

The three characteristics of a sensitive or crucial talk are that the stakes are high, feelings are elevated and opinions may differ. In talking about racism with your…

Question: When my 2-year-old gets angry, he sometimes gets down and bangs his head on the floor. This happens two or three times a week, generally speaking. He’s not b…

I have long maintained that the significant per capita increase in child and adolescent mental health problems since the 1960s is due to the collective embrace of a pa…

Inspired by E. Nesbit’s 1902 serialized novel called Five Children and It, the movie Four Kids and It is a wonderful fantasy film for all ages that brings the story alive.

Even before the city of Austin, Texas, required customers and employees doing business in the state capital to wear face masks, many businesses already had imposed the rule.

Question: Our son, age 8, has been diagnosed with attention deficit disorder. His IQ is well above average, but his actual performance in the classroom is problematic.…

Teachers often tell me that one reason so many of today's children are difficult to motivate is because they are accustomed to receiving rewards for obedience, being responsible, not misbehaving and so on.

We are moving through times that require us to tap into our bravery. Surrounded by stressors — COVID-19, children at home 24/7, distance learning, physical distancing,…

As much as my kids have been awaiting our own Pennsylvania county’s reopen date, like many parents I’ve spoken with, I’m dreading it.

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