Question: We began toilet training our daughter when she was 21 months old. Within 10 days, she was consistently using the toilet for Number One. She now wears underwear 24/7 because she doesn’t even wet her bed. The problem is that she’s now 23 months old and has had only four successful bowel movements on the toilet. She has a BM when she’s still in bed in the morning or sometime during her nap. Regardless, her BMs are impossible to anticipate. When I discover her accident, I simply remind her she needs to go on the toilet. I haven’t done anything more assertive because I haven’t wanted to create a power struggle. I read your toilet training book and know about the use of a gate. Do you think I should go in that direction?
Answer: I should explain to the reader that the “gate” refers to a child-proof gate that is used to confine a child in the bathroom or whatever room the parents have put the potty. I recommend that a gate be used in conjunction with a “potty bell” — a simple kitchen timer that’s set to go off at regular intervals in anticipation of the child’s need to use the potty. When the bell goes off, the parents simply remind the child that it’s time to use the potty. If the child is resistant, then I sometimes but not always recommend that the parents use a gate.
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