Dear Hookup: I've been hooking up with this boy for a little over a month now, and I feel like I'm stuck in limbo. We're not in a relationship, and I feel like I did a month ago — that he doesn't really care. I like this boy, and it's frustrating that he is so unresponsive and indifferent. If he's talking to me and hanging out with me, doesn't that mean he likes me too, even just a little? If he's not into me and doesn't want a relationship, he should just let me know so I can go on with my life. But I'm not willing to give it up if I think there's potential. I just don't know what to do — stay and get stuck as friends with benefits or leave and possibly miss out on a good relationship. — With Or Without?



Dear WOW: The best thing to do in
a confusing situation like yours is to
confront it head on. Sit this boy down
and have a talk with him to figure out
where your relationship is going, if anywhere. It seems like you both definitely need some clarity before it goes any
further.

About his interest level, it is always hard
to tell. Some boys just like to take things slowly and are afraid of commitment (
not that some girls aren't, too). This does not at all mean he doesn't have feelings
for you. But if he continues to treat you like some girl he can use when he wants, ditch him. — Alice Jets



Dear WOW: This is a frustrating situation. If it's been that long and no relationship has developed, I doubt one will. If
you just want to remain friends with benefits, then stay in the situation, if you don't, get out now. It won't get any better.

There's the small chance that he's scared and doesn't know how to go about taking it to the next level, but he's had
time to make it clear and he hasn't. Plus,
you deserve someone who really wants
to be with you. Good luck. — Jasmine
Summers.



Jasmine and Alice are aliases for two GenNext staff writers. They're not experts. They offer advice to teens on anything from friendships to romantic relationships. Reach them at thehookup_gennext@yahoo.com.